H.E.A.R.T. Relationship Training

Hakomi Embodied and Aware Relationships Training

A mindfulness-centred approach to interpersonal intelligence and seeing from the heart



There is no place in the world where we are challenged as much to step out of our personal limitations and to grow, than in relationships that are deeply meaningful to us. This is where we laugh, suffer, make war and reconcile, and it is also where we can find the highest forms of surrender, transcendence of character, and the most profound happiness. Yet, despite our longing for deeper connection and healing within our relationships, many people find themselves stuck in familiar patterns and lost as to how to overcome these difficulties. This can happen not only in our romantic relationships, but also in other relationships that are important to us, such as with friends, parents, children, co-workers, and neighbours.

The H.E.A.R.T. model provides a blueprint for navigating the challenges and opportunities that relationships of all kinds offer us, in ways that can open the door to deeper understanding of both self and other, and ultimately deeper connection. The training provides a safe, supportive environment in which participants can attend to the important questions about human relationships that many individuals and therapists have asked themselves over and over again.

The H.E.A.R.T. model is a mindfulness-centred approach to cultivating conscious relationships. It focuses on the human relationship in a way that allows both people to participate in the expansion of consciousness and in the healing that this can promote. H.E.A.R.T. is an integrative, unique, non-eclectic approach that fits well with postmodern thinking. It allows freedom to conceive and live one’s own values and rules and emphasises personal responsibility and consciousness. The H.E.A.R.T. model arises from and is consistent with principles and methods of Hakomi Experiential Psychotherapy. Halko Weiss developed the training as a way to fill the gap between the Hakomi model that focused on the client’s internal process (the intrapersonal) and the complexity that arises when considering the processes that arise between two people (the interpersonal), whether that be client and therapist or simply any two individuals.

In Australia, H.E.A.R.T. is led by Dr Halko Weiss, founding Hakomi Trainer and Director of Hakomi Institute of Europe, and Dr Karen Baikie, Certified Hakomi Trainer. The next training will be held in Sydney. The dates and venue for the next training are currently being finalised, with the training likely to be commencing late 2019 or early 2020.

To register your interest, or find out more, please contact Karen Baikie.

For more information, please download the previous H.E.A.R.T. Training Brochure.

To read reflections by previous graduates, please download the HAA News H.E.A.R.T. Article.


Course Content

The training incorporates a blend of theory, interpersonal skills training, mindfulness-based experiential learning, discussion, reflection, group process and optional study groups. There will be a balance between didactic teaching, exercises in small and larger groups, group sharing, and individual reflection. In practical terms, participants may choose to use their relationships within the training group explore their own personal relationship styles and to practice the skills taught in the training, as well as having time to explore their own personal relationships outside of the training group, both personal and professional.

1. The Large Picture: A General Model of Relationship
During the course of the training, we will study and explore methods and techniques that emanate from a model of healing in which relationship has a key role. In this way, we hope to offer therapists a comprehensive framework for when relationship problems arise.

2. Worlds Apart: The Art Of Dialogue
Communication has a central role in all living systems. Without it, any self-organised entity would die. Therefore, it is of great value to understand what communication is designed to do and how to build it in healing ways.

3. I Would Really Like To, But…: Self Competence And The Internal Parts
If good relationships fail to grow, it is because of our own limitations. Maturity, as well as personal power and awareness, is needed to slowly expand towards relationship mastery. Therefore, we pay much attention to personal growth within the relational web of the training group, and we work with interpersonal issues that come up.

4. From Intra To Inter: One-On-One Therapy
There are times when the real relationship between therapist and client becomes part of the therapeutic process in one-on-one therapy. In long-term therapy, the relationship will change – it will become more equal, but never really equal. We need to know when and why to shift from an intrapersonal to an interpersonal approach. It is important to understand this shift of roles, and to train in the procedures and techniques of when we enter the path of becoming more of a real person for our client.

5. Totally Out Of Control: The Group Process
As the training group progresses and has more experiences together, we will apply the H.E.A.R.T. concepts of communication and transformation to the group as a whole. We will explore group dynamics in a Hakomi way. If things arise spontaneously, we will take the opportunity to learn from the emerging processes.

6. Standing At The Abyss: Couple Therapy
When a couple comes to therapy they are usually at a point where most of their dreams have collapsed, and they look – subjectively – at the likelihood of one of the greatest disappointments of their lives. At the same time, it may be the greatest challenge to growth they will ever encounter. This is a very powerful and precarious chance for transformation and healing. This part of the training will be the blue print for exploring and understanding relationship. Participants will be invited to confront their emotions and reactions towards other persons in the group, and they will receive assistance from their peers, as a way of modelling this transformational process. We will also explore how to apply the H.E.A.R.T. model in a couple therapy context.

7. So Close To God And Yet In Hell: Love Relationships As A Path For Healing And The Transpersonal
Naturally, the deeply personal experience of encountering another is at the core of understanding relationship. Therefore, we expect that many participants will join this training so that they can also profit from it in their own personal life – and in love particularly. By the end of the training it will be apparent that this encounter is at the core of what it means to be human, and that through it we can deepen relationships beyond the limits of character, needs, and problem solving. There is the potential to discover how conscious loving relationships have a transpersonal dimension that can help us transcend who we are right now.